44 year old bi-curious Anal virgin looking for some advice. Been bi-curious ever since I can remember, and never acted on it until very recently. I met up with a guy off a cottaging site last Sunday, sucked him off and swallowed his cum load. It was amazing, and something I've fantasized about for years. On the cottaging site,I saw a few comments mentioning Northwich sauna, so I decided to check it out online. I was bowled over by what this place is - wish I'd have known about it years ago. Anyways, I decided to take the plunge and went there yesterday (22/01/19). It was naked day and was very nervous about going, but once I got there and stripped off, all my inhibitions disappeared. The place is amazing - guys of all shapes and sizes all there to have some fun. I was there for 4 hours, and I had my cock sucked through a glory hole, sucked off this very fit younger guy with a huge cock and at one point, I had 3 big dicks surrounding me, taking turns wanking and deepthroating them in the sauna. I was approached by a twenty-something fit Brazilian lad who wanted me to fuck him. I started with oral and rimming, and then he got his sachet of lube out. I put a condom on, spread the lube on us both and started to enter him. However, as soon as I tried to get my cock inside him, I started going soft and couldn't get myself hard again (nightmare 😥
. I think I've realised that I'm just not into fucking men and would prefer to be the taker. I wandered around the place worrying that taking a cock in my arse for the first time would be too painful to do in a place like this and was too worried to act on it. So....after such a long story, my question is - would I be ok with my tight arse hole the first time, or do I need to prepare it with dildo etc. before I take the plunge? I was thinking of going back there on Saturday, as it's naked day again.
There are a couple of ways you can view this. If receptive anal intercourse is something you really want to do, start with a guy with a micro and work up. With experience, practice and stretching eventually you'll be able to take even a super jumbo in your ass with ease. Perhaps even you'll move on to being fisted.
Or satisfy yourself with sucking and being sucked. Not all man-on-man sex is ass fucking. Not by any means, though present day attitudes seem to indicate that. You might want to pull up my Forum post "The Evolution of Gay Sex" and have a look. [An easy way to do this is to clock on the "other posts" next to my name.]
Cheers.
Relaxing is the most important thing!!
Anal play for guys can be amazing with whomever. I loved sharing it with a woman, and her toy, explaining that women usually get penetrated by men, but straight men, don't usually experience the sensations of someone else, penetrating them. It's really EROTIC and AMAZING!!
If you are going to take a dick in your asshole, make absolutely sure that your asshole is scrupulously clean, not only on the outside, but also dick length deep on the inside. This is really the only preparation you need take.
As for practice sessions with a dildo, they are not really needed. I've had dozens of dicks in my ass but never a dildo. Toys just aren't my thing and I'd rather have a real dick. Perhaps you feel differently and would like a trial run with a dildo. If so, go for it.
As for the actual penetration, it's important to learn how to relax the anal sphincter. This is not especially difficult, but it does take a certain amount of practice as the normal condition of this sphincter is to be slightly tensed to keep the opening closed. If the sphincter is not relaxed, penetration will hurt. This pain will cause you to tense up the sphincter causing even more pain.
It is part of ass fucking etiquette that the fuckee gets to control the penetration. No matter what position the two participants choose, the fuckee determines how fast the dick will go in him and the fucker will not proceed with the pumping action until it is clear that the fuckee is comfortable with the dick inside him. Of course there are louts who plunge right in without regard for the fuckee's feelings. Let's hope you don't encounter one.
So I hope these remarks are useful and that you have a lovely experience giving away your anal virginity to a fine gentleman.
And the odds are really good that you will meet such a gentleman. Upon learning that you are a virgin, most men will be totally charmed by that and will do everything they can to make your first time a pleasurable and memorable experience.
So, good luck and let us know how it went.
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