Hi olddog. Sorry about the loss of your wife, hard time for you and your family. Have you ever had sex with another guy? When I first came out I was a consenting adult but I was so naive and when I look back on that now was pretty much taken advantage of, I was new to the scene and thought I'd quickly form a long term loving relationship, only because that's what I wanted then. Anyway had no trouble having sexual partners, met them in the clubs, a gamma group, down at the nudist beach but it was just blow and go stuff. Got disheartened after awhile and took a big step backwards, but then I met my partner through mutual friends and we have been together 18 years. So it depends of course what you are looking for, long term or quickies, there are plenty of guys that love quickies, we all love getting our rocks off, just don't get hurt, know we're your heads at then go for it. I've never been happier. I don't know the area were you live, look on google to see if they have gay saunas in your area, gay friendly pubs, Gamma might be in your area, they are a group of married or x married men coming out and supporting each other. Of course you don't have to come out or anything, many men have same sex without claiming to be gay. I am gay, I sought out a relationship with a man and love him, it's not just a sexual thing. Good luck with it all, would love to know how you get on. You might even hook up on here, if someone lives near you. Put yourself out there.