Just wondering... I am gay but had some "interesting" conversations with straight guys and are then afraid to make some kind of a move for fear of maybe reading the signs wrong...
Well that wouldn't really be straight at all... So then the question becomes, to what degree are we each gay or straight. Personally, I'm appreciative of naked people in general. I acknowledge the attractiveness of both sexes. But to put it frankly, I'd never be interested in sex with a guy. I've thought about it just long enough to reject the thought.
I am straight. Do not think of guys sexually like I do women. But I would like to have a nice shaved cock to suck for the first time. Don't know how to ask for the first time. Would like to have a cock in my ass and feel the pulsation of a orgasm. I have used a soft rubber dildo in my ass but it wasn't pulsataing and seding a hot load in my ass.
It happens all the time. It is completely normal for a person of one sexual orientation to have dreams and fantasies about the other. I'm as gay as they come, but I often have thoughts about straight sex, and many straight friends have been candid enough to tell me that they sometimes have thoughts about gay sex. Not everyone does, of course, but it happens often enough to be considered normal.
And to clarify things, dreams and fantasies are not the same as actually doing something. So if your straight friends talk about gay sex, that doesn't necessarily mean that they'd actually do it.
Be honest guys... most men either have had a same sex experience at some stage or would be up for it if the opportunity/need arose. Big hetro guys fuck the arse of each other in jail or in the Navy.
I have to say, that is NOT my experience,..."big hetro guys" usually prefer women, along with little hetero guys, otherwise they are not really "hetro" by definition. Any group of men together usually sort out quite quickly who is completely straight, who is of an oposite polarity and who have doubts! Inject some tension and fear into the situation and it becomes instantly clear who are what, and who the closet gays are.
I used to have a gay aquaintance who was a really nice guy and VERY honest and trustworthy as well,...I would have trusted my life in his hands. However, much as I liked him and admired his handsome looks, it never once occured to me to think about him in any sexual way. When he eventually found a regular partner I (along with everyone else) was completely delighted, but I never thought about them in bed together in the same way that I have thought about men/women partnerships that I know.
The gays I have chatted with are usually into talking about stuff unrelated to sex, either way. I can't say I would mind talking about gay sex as a topic of discussion but I don't think I'd particularly be good at having verbal sex with a guy. It doesn't mean I can't appreciate the though however, I am very straight and have better fantasies about having sex with the women I meet on the site.
To answer your question though, if you don't make the attempt with some of the guys you meet you'll never know. Simply ask them first if they would be into talking sexually with you. You'll either find they do or they don't and the quandary is solved.
I used to have a gay aquaintance who was a really nice guy and VERY honest and trustworthy as well,...I would have trusted my life in his hands. However, much as I liked him and admired his handsome looks, it never once occured to me to think about him in any sexual way. When he eventually found a regular partner I (along with everyone else) was completely delighted, but I never thought about them in bed together in the same way that I have thought about men/women partnerships that I know.
To answer your question though, if you don't make the attempt with some of the guys you meet you'll never know. Simply ask them first if they would be into talking sexually with you. You'll either find they do or they don't and the quandary is solved.
I can admire a fit looking man and like to see men and women engaged in sex which DOES turn me on ,...but not just the male element on its own.
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