I used to be very shy once, then found myself in a job where I had to talk to strangers all day every day. Got to the point where I can now strike up a conversation with anyone, anywhere, anytime. I don't set out to do so, I just don't have any inhibition or self judging that stops me like it used to. Now, a million years and a terminal illness later, I find that, in the words of a very old song, - "When I need a friend, I just give a wrinkle..." And have met and got to know some very nice and interesting people. I don't chase sex partners, but I don't doubt that I could easily find some if I wasn't basically a faithful sort of person...

I dont, two kids and work 6 days a week, no free time but when im on the toilet...

You turn off the 'puter and go to where there ARE people... most constructively with similar interests and who are as similar to you and your values, ses, etc. as possible. Then the most successful spend time getting to know some of these people... however if you blow in and out from one place to another... call an **** service!