So much in sex is about power. I am a controller by nature, so I tend to show that in my sexual behaviour. I’m not into non-consent or forcing anything, rather more that my partner desires me and likes me to take charge. Being wanted is a big turn-on, and being wanted where I control is especially so. It’s hugely powerful to know that the things I want to do that give me great pleasure are really wanted by the other person. Essentially I am quite dominant in my sexual relationships. That has many aspects to it. I really enjoy seducing. I enjoy breaking through barriers to get to the state where I am sexually wanted. Once that happens, power and control passes to me. I also really enjoy the knowledge that my partner gives their body (and mind) to me. That they want me to do what I want with them. Of course the ultimate reward is that they enjoy it, that my actions bring them huge pleasure. That is, for me, my raison d’être .....