There are LOTS of different people on this planet and each of has our own likes and dislikes. We ALL have the ways we like 'things' and never more so than when we're having sex.

Sweet and tender or down, dirty and rough. Not to mention everything in between AND some combination of all of the above eh? LOL

It's enough to drive a would be Lothario nuts trying to figure out the 'game plan' when confronted with a new lover isn't it?

This is why I'm a HUGE fan of communication. There is NO better way of finding out what your would be lover LIKES then......

ASKING THEM!

Imagine that eh? Actually talking to them about sex BEFORE having sex.. Openly, honestly.. Seeking to understand their wants, desires, needs... Amazing eh? What a concept..

It goes FURTHER... People tend to like things in specific ways. We are NOT a one size fits all type of species my friends. Sure, in general, there are things that everyone likes and enjoys. There are 'ways' of pleasing a person that are pretty much universal BUT to move to that much vaunted 'next level', it's MUCH better to find out what and HOW your lover TRULY likes things done.

It's ALL in the details my friends and while you can spend hours discovering those details, I find it MUCH easier if you just simply.....

TALK!

Besides, if you do it right, those conversations can be a MAJOR turn on by themselves and clear the way for some seriously fulfilling sex for EVERYBODY involved..

Viva la Communication!!