You said it perfectly

In my most humble opinion, if it's something between two consenting adults, no physical harm, etc. then it's no one's business. Now, if it starts to involve children, etc. then I have major issues with it. But, I say, to each his own. The only one we answer to is God.

You are lucky to have a steady boyfriend.

I'm glad you had the courage to post about this fascinating subject, southsidestud!

Whatever you guys are doing is probably WAY more common than you imagine. You can see just by the number of men and women who visit just this one website that so-called "normal" people do all kinds of things in private that they think are really "oddball" –until they see how many others on here have the same or far more 'off-the-wall' sexual interests.

The only thing that matters is that you both do –whatever it is– knowing that underneath it lies something positive and loving for all the individuals involved –with no intent to harm your or anyone else's body or psyche.
Millions of people enjoy sexual role playing everyday, and it
can happen in ANY form that all involved agree upon. In my opinion, this is not only erotic, but often cathartic and allows us to work through mysterious and even forgotten happenings in our distant past and to come to a better understanding of them.

For example, –and I'm not implying that this pertains to you both– millions of us had childhood sexual experiences, either at the hands of other children or adults, often a parent or family member, that have left us in a state of mystery and fascination for years. Vague and poorly understood events that happened to us or that we witnessed in our early childhood can haunt us as adults as secret and "odd" and powerful fascinations –call them fetishes– with peculiar objects, activities and situations that turn us on without our comprehending why.

As a result, we can wrongly 'blame' ourselves as simply being 'weirdos' or 'perverse'.. or anything else that ignorant people might have laid on us. Role-playing (done safely) can help us find clarity about why a particular fetishes or 'off-the-wall' things allure us. In fact, this is why many actors are actors or many writers write: To give themselves permission in a judgmental society to discover more about their own resolved memories, interests and urges.

Just be smart and careful that you don't cause any kind of bodily injury that might lead to physical problems suddenly or later in life. If your activity has to do with some kind of physical S & M like bondage or pain or loss of air that could be dangerous or life-threatening if conducted wrong, just know that there are tons of groups out there that have meetings, gatherings, workshops and online discussion boards where you can ask and learn how to do what you like safely and probably with even more of a thrill.

I also read your other post from earlier and see that you are concerned about being attracted to youth. Many, many of us men love to role-play dad and son scenarios. From various workshops I've participated in, guys I've talked to over many years, etc, I've come to believe that this is VERY COMMON.

You seem to have a good, solid sense that you must stay away from actual minors.
Just always remember WHY common sense and our legal system demands this of adults: Even if certain ones might appear to, young minds don't have autonomy –the independence to leave, the judgment or the maturity to fully grasp the powerful hold of sexual attention and affection that adults can lay upon them. They are slaves of a sort who can only endure and pretend to like what they might not, or if they do like what is happening to them, do not grasp the horrible pain of not being able to tell anyone about it. This means that every adult a deep responsibility to not interfere and confuse them with sexual interference that can completely overpower them, and against which they are helplessly not mature enough to process and file away rationally.

God knows, human sex drive and sex itself are NOT rational, but instinctive and animal-like, so it's confusing enough for us adults to try to integrate it into our everyday "civilized" social behavior. This dichotomy is why we have executives getting caught with their dicks on the office photocopier or big erections on their corporate email accounts. We adults have a tough time knowing where sex fits into our highly controlled and civilized world. So, just imagine young brains that aren't yet fully hard-wired.

Some –not all– of men's desire to role-play "father and son" has to do with exactly the same mysterious fooling around that we witnessed or were made to, or were "allowed" to participate in as children ourselves. For the other part, we humans have an instinctive drive to love and teach our offspring, perhaps to rectify what we wanted but felt we didn't get, and many lack an appropriate person on which to bestow this.

Often we can't recall ancient sexual experiences well or even at all. Our minds were totally unequipped to categorize them –other than to know that they felt oddly hypnotic, erotic, exciting and haunting all at once, and in some cases involved whispered promises of "special love", secrecy upon pain of love being taken away, someone getting hurt, or punishment if another soul ever found out. This causes a strange wound that scabs over and later in life expresses itself as a peculiar itch that can be irresistible to scratch over and over again in an attempt to find satisfaction and comprehension.

Psychologists are only recently uncovering just what a high percentage of us have unspoken sexually-charged events in our past. I think we will discover that the actually numbers still hidden due to shame and fear about acknowledging such incidents are absolutely staggering but hidden, .

So, although an urge to scratch some "odd" itch causes us to seek out someone with whom to explore this further, we simply need to take care that we only ever choose another adult to explore our mysteries with. Otherwise we are guilty of creating yet another generation of similarly puzzled adults wandering about with the same needs ... in a generation after generation endless cycle.

Nothing wrong with that man

Like what?

The only ones that matter, unless you are going to hurt someone, is you and your boyfriend

What thoughts?