I recently read an article in the latest AARP magazine. It spoke of changes as people age. In addition to taste, hearing, and sense of smell that change, it seems there is a theory that sexual preference can change as well. This may explain why there are so many of us, forty and older, who have developed a bi-curious side.
I became curious in my fifties. I had decided I would try sex with another man before I turned sixty. I am now 67 and have been with a few men. One of them I was with twice, second time broadcast live. That was intense and it was obvious by the amount of people watching.
I really love this thread. As a young man I found myself attracted to the beautiful male,would not admit it. In my early twenties I was hit on by a young man, how I loved that on the inside! But not allowing it to come out.
As many of you have expressed, you should go for it. Now wishing I would have , longing for and being obsessed at my age....I have yet to find the right man in my area, but have met a couple on line...
Really interesting topic, with many theories. I've always been interested in the sexuality of men as much as women from an early age, but would never have considered myself as bi. With the greater liberality of society & the openness of the internet, all sorts of things open up. One day I walked into a gay sauna, and suddenly I'm bi?! It opened up a world of sexual excitement I hadn't experience before...
I am slightly embarrassed by how hard I just got reading through this blog and all the comments. I have always been attracted to older men who are well represented on this site, and the thought of several yummy older men all here to enjoy themselves and hopefully teach a young one like me a little something
You have a fantastic package yourself. I can't understand the fascination with shaving ALL the pubic hair. I shave my testicles for comfort, they don't itch near as much
Freedom of the mind comes with maturity. Understanding that the feelings of closeness to others including man to man is natural. I found my interest looking at porn at theaters & seeing guys around me jerking off. I was soon jerking off with them & then playing with them. I was hooked. I was in my mid thirties with a wife that was slowing down sexually. F ridged wife's & open mind can be so sexually exciting I am almost always satisfied.
Great that you put this out there.. YES! The internet has opened up everything.. but so have those of us who promoted gay rights many years ago.. thereby slowly chipping away at old fearful attitudes and ignorance about sexual identity.
Few people would admit even to themselves, not to mention to other people, that they were anything but 100% hetero.. and they worried themselves half to death in private that they might feel attracted to the 'wrong' thing!
I began to feel cravings for cock whenever i was on blow... I think that i allowed myself to get in touch to that part of me through cocain, to slowly bring me to the truth of my bisexuality, that lies beneath the whole pre installed package of homofobia we recieve in capitalism since we're kids. So getting in touch with it trough cocain made me, in my case, smooth the hard truth, and kibda feel we all do the same. Some people allow themselves to get it touch, and others repress it and become homofobic to antagonize the matter, becoming an anger and frustrated person, spilling their pain of beign sexually doomed to insatisfaction or suffering some form of social desaproval by their inner social circle... This comunnity/site/web is a wonderful and respectful place to allow ourselves to feel!!
I truly believe that if, society didn't put stigmas and labels on sex. most people would grow up being interested in both sex's...imagine the possibilities....
I think; that all people are naturally Bi and it is societies views that say we should be str8. Then as we get older and start to realize, that we have a more broader interest in our own sex...
I wonder about myself whether my homo-erotic desires have developed as I've grown older or if they've been there all along and I've just become more able to admit them to myself and own them.
That's very interesting. I know that in my case I'd harbored a minor curiosity about experimenting with men since my mid 20s but now, in my mid 40s, it's become a much more dominant desire. I 'm still attracted to women, primarily, but i have a much stronger desire, nearing obsession, to be with a man. On a conscious level, I think to myself, "the years are going by, you only live once, you have to try to fulfill all the things you've dreamed of doing."
With age many things that were exiting before slowly become usual and therefore boring, so people look for something new to get exited. It's pretty much the same about sex, work, entertainment, food, etc. Those who keep feeling same things like if it was their first time are truly lucky.
As many of you have expressed, you should go for it. Now wishing I would have , longing for and being obsessed at my age....I have yet to find the right man in my area, but have met a couple on line...
Few people would admit even to themselves, not to mention to other people, that they were anything but 100% hetero.. and they worried themselves half to death in private that they might feel attracted to the 'wrong' thing!
But that's cool that you're open-minded...
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